Deana Tolstunov (they/them)

LMFTA
Accepting Clients

Hi, I'm Deana! I am a queer, nonbinary femme individual, relationship and sex therapist. Reach out for a free 20-min consult today.

Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Washington
Supervised by Fiona O'Farrell, PhD, LMFT, CST-S and Haley Krenzke, MS, LMFT, CST

About My Clients

I specialize in providing collaborative sex, intimacy, and relationship therapy that supports clients in gender and sexuality exploration, relationship transitions, trauma and grief, deepening intimacy and desire, exploring BDSM/kink, and processing the shame and stigma that can surround such topics. I am passionate about working with erotically marginalized folks (trans, queer, kinky, polyamorous, sex workers) but welcome anyone to reach out to work together.

My Background and Approach

My approach is curious, authentic, compassionate, direct, and resourceful, with room for laughter and silliness when it feels right. This can look like helping you get to the heart of an issue, assigning homework, or challenging negative beliefs that may not be serving you anymore. You are the expert on your life, and I am honored to actively support your path toward healing. My training in the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy and Sex Therapy makes me an excellent fit for highly motivated individuals, couples, and 2+ relationships ready to get their hands dirty.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I strive to provide trauma-informed and culturally empathetic therapy with a foundation rooted in HAES (Health at Every Size) principles, sex worker alignment, and advocacy for BIPOC and erotically marginalized populations, including the LGBTQ+, kink, and polyamorous communities. As a white, Jewish, queer, non-binary femme and the child of immigrants, I understand how important cultural identity is. I will work with you to explore what identities are most salient for you.

I offer online counseling in the following states:

At A Glance

  • Experience: 1 year of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $185 - 195/session

Reach out to Deana